Confidence in the Midst of COVID 19

Finding Confidence in the Midst of Crisis

As we navigate together through the unfamiliar waters of the Coronavirus (COVID19), I’d like you to have hope during these uncertain times. Many of us are working at home alongside our spouse, changing the dynamics of how we relate to each other.  Some of us have found absence may not make the heart grow fonder.

But there is hope.

Storms catch us off guard. Before we realize it, we’ve plunged into the new reality of unfamiliar emotions and disruption of our daily rituals and activities.

If we see the storm approaching, we may have time for preemptive adjustments. But more often than not, we wake up to a news report or a doctor’s diagnosis that instantly changes everything.

Loss of work and the distress and anxiety that follow that is real. It’s okay to not be okay.

Loss of work and the distress and anxiety that follow that is real. It’s okay to not be okay.

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I encourage you to:

  1. Normalize Different
    Life is different. We are missing our routines and the people in our lives. Focus on what you can do, not what you can’t do.
  2. Don’t Catastrophize
    Remember, you’ve been through tough times before. What were you worried about? What were your spiritual practices? What got you through those circumstances? Put things in perspective: Missing a massage appointment is an inconvenience, not a problem. Your favorite restaurant is closed; that’s an inconvenience. You can’t meet your friend for coffee; that’s an inconvenience. Your spouse woke up with a fever and cough; that’s a problem. That said, the crisis we’re all experiencing — it’s hard. Really hard.
  3. Give your Spouse Space
    You both need alone time: to process; to pray; to decompress. Gifting your spouse with time — a temporary release from responsibility and routine — can be an enormous blessing.
  4. Name it… Don’t hide it
    Put words to the feelings. Sad, scared, uncomfortable, frustrated, angry, denial, lack of motivation —Grief. Most of us are experiencing a loss of sameness, connection, safety, financial security, and control. We are uncertain about the future.
  5. Be Intentionally Connected
    Look around you. Who needs a kind word or compassion? Who needs you to listen? Ask others how they are coping. Maintain physical distance but stay connected. Be creative. For example, stay connected through video platforms like ZOOM.
  6. Pray
    Prayer is always a priority, but especially in unprecedented times like these. Do you pray with your spouse? If not, now is the time to start. Praying together for your marriage and family is the most intimate thing you can do together.
  7. Create a Sense of Accomplishment
    Structure and plan your days. How can you make your downtime productive? What projects have you put off? How about changing up your responsibilities?
  8. Keep a Journal
    When blessings show up, even small ones, record them. Make a list of the things you can’t control; take 5-10 minutes to name them. What are the things today you do have control of, things you can accomplish today? Remember the feelings.
  9. Don’t forget Date Nights
    Okay, cross off movies, restaurants and climbing walls. That’s the new reality. Get creative — focus on what you can do. For inspiration, subscribe to our Weekly Date Night Ideas. Hint: Netflix is not the only option.
  10. Breathe
    Check out the scriptural mindfulness app, Abide or the YouTube video, Stilling the Mind: Freedom from Worry by the Mindful Christian.

May God bless you and protect you, and may you sense His peace that passes understanding during these challenging days.

… He will cover you with his feathers. He will shelter you with his wings. His faithful promises are your armor and protection. Do not be afraid of the terrors of the night, nor the arrow that flies in the day. Do not dread the disease that stalks in darkness, nor the disaster that strikes at midday …  Psalm 91:4-6

May the Lord bless you and protect you. May the Lord smile on you and be gracious to you. May the Lord show you his favor and give you his peace.  Numbers 6:24-26

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